Ready-ish for a Naybie BOY

At this moment we have said that this will probably most likely surly be the last baby that I am going to carry. I am not one that loves or really hates pregnancy; it is a long 9 month road. Don’t get me wrong it is so special and a truly amazing thing that anyone’s body can transform and grow a little human, but besides just the gestation period there is the recovery after, the breastfeeding battle (or if nothing else it is a pain and time suck, literally) oh and the next 18 years of trying to nurture and raise an upstanding or at least contributing member of society.

I did feel the need to get some last family pics of just the 4 of us. We really have not had professional photos taken since Ellen was born … I just tried to find them on the blog and looks like they never got posted. I guess that just goes to show that with a 2 month old and 17 month old there was literally no time for this blog. I am wondering if it will have to take a back seat again for this Naybie. I also wanted to remember the baby bump, since (again) this will be my last one (I promise I’m not just saying that to convince myself). Also since I have ZERO monthly chalkboards for this guy. I didn’t loose the board or anything … it is prominently hanging in our kitchen. I just never got the energy for it this time around :( poor baby. Thank you to Brook Lewis Photography for being so patient on a hot morning with a crabby 3 year old and to Widmer Floral for the special babies breath crowns for the girls. I don’t know what it is about professional photos, but they just look so much better than anything I take on my camera or iphone. The only ones of Ellen in particular smiling are because Chester is in the background being a monkey … which is why he isn’t in most of them.

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THE HOUSE
Our house is somewhat ready-ish for this guy. While there really is no nursery, there is a guest room with a crib set up for him! And we have a little nook in this room that started as the master bedroom and is still that, but also a catch all room for the girl’s art table, my desk and now where most of the baby’s stuff resides. I have been trying wash all of the things we have had in storage for 3+ years and am reminded of just how much stuff these little babies require. And also how much new stuff they have come out with in the short amount of time we haven’t had a baby. A rock-n-play? A sit-me-up? Seem to be the latest must haves in baby land. Also thanks to some wonderful friends and family of ours I think we are set in the clothes department and even diapers/wipes/baby wash for now.

THE GIRLS
It has probably seemed like we have said that the baby is almost here forever to those little girls whose perception of time is so different from ours. So while we are just 13 days away at this point I don’t know if they believe me in knowing just how close we really are. They love giving kisses to my belly and the baby on a daily basis. And they love babies they see in the gym daycare or even walking around the store. Hopefully with school starting right when the baby comes will only add to their excitement and they won’t feel like they are cooped up all day long with him.

THE HUSBAND 
I have also forgotten how much Chester really loves babies. He just loves to mess with anything really and babies are no exception. In fact it is probably worse with babies since they are experiencing everything for the first time and Chester loves to see their reactions and expressions from blowing in their face and their ears. Tickling all the little crevices and rolls. It is so fun watching him with babies.

THE MOMMA
Everyone looks at how huge I am and says “you must be ready” and trust me I am ready to sleep on my back, roll on my stomach and even run and jump. BUT I am also dreading the recovery, sleepless nights, anxiety of newborn cries. Also I know that he is so safe in there. Maybe because we are saying this is the last one that I will carry, that I feel sad knowing that once he leaves that I’ll be lonely. I don’t remember feeling that sadness before with the girls. Also this guy is so animated in there already that I’ll miss the constant buddy reminding me that he is in there. And I know there will be moments where I wish I could just put him back in there … kangaroos have it figured out I think. And with my school semester wrapping up I am breathing a sigh of relief that I’ll be able to take a short break and then back to the books in October.

THE BOULLIE
Boullie is slipping down yet another rung on the totem poll in the Nay house. His anxiety seems less severe since we have moved to Highland, he displays the symptoms of shaking, hiding and panting on a much more frequent basis. I really don’t know if this baby will have a large effect on him other than another thing that will drop things for him to eat on the floor … so how can that be bad for Bou?

So I guess we are ready as we will ever be for this baby boy to shake up our lives. We are so excited to meet him!

 

 

Summer Lovin with My Girls

It seems like we were just saying hello to summer and here we are saying goodbye. It has been a really fun few months and the last ones that its just the 4 of us. I got to spend most days of the week bumming around with the girls. I am thankful most everyday that I get to stay home with them. I know that it won’t and can’t last forever, but the daily snuggles, kisses and outings are worth the emotional, financial and stressful sacrifices I struggle with.

While I have posted about some of our big summer events on the blog already like birthday parties and our beach vacation, it has been the all the little fun things that we have filled our summer with that makes it so sweet.

Here are just a few that come to mind … Family Birthdays, Fourth of July, MoBot, Miranda’s Shower, Camping, First Cardinals Game, Lake of Dreams, Woodburn Wedding, Fairing, Magic House, Backyard Bummin, Parks

Vivienne is growing to be a polite, inquisitive 4 year old girl who always wishes she was older so she can wear high heals, makeup and go to a big kid school. She is so ready for kindergarten that I would send her in a second if it were up to me. I think she gets bored at home and she wants so badly to know and to learn everything. She gets mad at herself when she does things wrong and always is looking for approval from mom and dad. I wish that I could protect her forever so that she doesn’t say “what if the kids laugh at me” that she has said on occasion, but I hope she knows that we are always on her side. Viv (who still prefers to be called Vivi or Vivienne) has the biggest belly laugh and is constantly cracking herself up. She is a vivacious eater and loves raw veggies with ranch, dipping crackers or chips in anything, anything sweet, but not too sweet. She would rather have a deli sandwiches for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Viv really loves poem books by Shel Silverstein they really make her think about things in a different way. She is constantly chasing after her sister to play with her and loves it when Ellen is her baby. Vivi would always rather stay up late and sleep in. She’s usually the last one up and could become grouchy when its an early morning. Viv sometimes will surprise us and clean her room to the point where it is unbelievable she is capable of such organization. She is always helping Ellen turn on the water for washing hands, fetching outfits and even helping her with the potty.

Ellen, while still my thumb sucking baby, is growing into her own little person. She likes to do her own thing a lot of the time, but is always up for a snuggle. If you are laying down she can always make time in her day to lay next to you. Ellen makes crazy facial expressions for no reason. The best ones are the ones she does at dinner time. Ellen is my picky eater although she has been doing a lot better, but if she sees a green bean on her plate, dinner is O.V.E.R. She doesn’t like the skin on fruit, crust on bread or seeds in anything. Plain pasta with butter and cheese is her go to. Ellen hates it when cabinet doors are left open, when drawers do not open and shut for her they way they should, or when the carpet gets “ruined” from Boullie. She is quick to yell at Boullie for being on the couch but also the one that volunteers to feed him every night. Ellen is the one that I worry about being on her own at school. She tends to get quiet around people she doesn’t know and is used to always having her sister there with her to help her do things. She likes to catch your eye across the room and tell you that she loves you. She wants kisses all the time to make sure that you’re not mad at her. Ellen right now is okay when she is not apart of the group and has developed a fascination for watching the little black ants.

 

Third Pregnancy | Third Trimester

Well we made it into the final weeks (#35weeks) of what has seemed like the longest and shortest pregnancy of all time. We found out super early with this one around January 6th (thank you Magen & Nick’s wedding for that exact date) so I’ve been pregnant ALLL year. Just when it seemed like it would never become hot enough to go to the pool this summer, it was. And the summer months have flown by. Seeing school supplies and summer clearance items at the store has me realizing that our time as a family of 4 is quickly coming to and end.

In retrospect it has been an easy pregnancy. My other two were also pretty smooth sailing. Besides some hiccups with providers and hospitals it looks like we will be delivering this baby via c-section on September 5, 2017 at Missouri Baptist by the same doctor that delivered Viv and Ellen. No this was no the original plan, but when does that ever happen anyway?

HAS THIS PREGNANCY BEEN DIFFERENT?
I get this question a lot. I think maybe because I am carrying a boy this time around people expect a good answer. The only real differences I can tell is that this baby kicks harder, more and longer than the girls did in utero. Also that I seemed to have ballooned much quicker and feel like I have looked full term all summer. Just in the last week I have been getting the “when are you due” eyes and question because I look and feel uncomfortable. My hair has been pretty full and silky but my skin is struggling this time around.

THE GIRLS EXPECTING
The girls give kisses to my belly all the time. They also use it as a wall to kick off of in the pool. They have met their newest baby cousin, James a few times this month. Which is great practice! Thank you Aunt Jessica! They seemed pretty sweet and careful around their cousin. Ellen lost interest when he did not hold any of the toys that she found for him. Viv would go back and forth but I think their expectations have been slightly lowered. I believe before they were expecting a baby play thing to come out and instantly jump and run and follow them around. The baby will come right when they start school so they will have many a new things to focus their short attentions.

SPRINKLES
I love that baby sprinkles are a thing. While getting some new baby stuff is nice, the best part is connecting with friends in different ways and celebrating this baby. It makes it seem like the very special thing that it is and reminds me that even though it is our third, bringing a life into this world is still just as monumental as the first time around. It also reminds me of what a great support system that we have built with friends and family. In the beginning you can feel so isolated, but really people would love for you to ask them for some help, and this time around I will probably be asking more than before since I won’t have as much help being a stay-at-home person and Chester not getting as much time at home.

Donut Galore Sprinkle | July 30 (#33weeks)
My wonderful ex-co-workers whom have turned into life time friends threw me a surprise little sprinkle when I thought we were just meeting for a swim. Gosh I have been through so much with Magen, Angie and Bonnie since we met in my early twenties. So much changes and happens in that decade that we have witnessed some of life’s greatest moments together. I am so looking forward to celebrating Bonnie’s wedding with her in October, which will probably be this momma’s first night out post this Naybie.

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Highland Punch Sprinkle | Aug 6 (#35weeks)
This party was so special to me because we really haven’t lived in Highland that long of a time … not even 2 years. But it shows what a great community and life that we have made here, after going through the biggest and scariest move to date. These ladies, all of whom are Korte gym members (ha!) are so inspiring to me in different ways. It is amazing to me to see each one of them balance their kids, work and health everyday and do so with smiles. I call this a Highland Punch because I requested a kids free, boozy event so we could sit without running after kids and leaving half of our conversations unfinished. I could actually see Julie’s home at a time not crawling with kids of all sizes … not sure when the last time that has happened in her party house.

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STL Sprinkle | Aug 20 (#37weeks)
And of course our wonderful friends from St. Louis, most of which we owe thanks to Boullie that we have met, threw us a small-big party with a delicious spread and happy memories. While we don’t get to see this bunch as much as we did when we lived in the area we are always so surprised and honored that they keep us as friends, even if it means crossing a river a few times. Our St. Louis family knew us before and after kids and have stuck by us through it all. It has been wonderful watching them through marriages, kids, moves and of course Tower Grove kickball. We are ever so thankful that this bunch has our back.
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Love, The Nays

Beach Vacation Up North

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Our little vacation home on Georgia Ave. Direct access to the beach! We probably had the smallest pad on the street.

While in all responsible forms of thinking it may not have been the best idea to go on a family vacation we decided to use the rational that we won’t remember that we didn’t have the money, didn’t have the vacation days and didn’t have the time. But we do have a 3 and 4 year old for the last summer that it will be just them. Maybe this was our vacation apology to the girls that we are going to give so much attention to this little baby and pretty much ruin Ellen’s life as she knows it.

We love the beach for the girls because with a beach they need very little other entertainment. The 17 hour drive that we made the the Gulf Shores last summer did not sound appealing so we opted for Lake Michigan. We did a circle tour around the lake without kids last summer and kept thinking how much fun they would have at its beaches. So a 4.5 hour drive up to Michigan City, Indiana it was.

As long as it is somewhat warm and not raining its beach weather! While the lake water stays pretty cool it was surprisingly refreshing and bearable even though the outside temps didn’t get above about 87 degrees I’d say. Here is how our itinerary went:

Arrival Afternoon: Beach
Day 1 Morning: Washington Park Zoo
Day 1 Afternoon: Beach
Day 2 Morning: Berry Picking @ Garwood Orchards (and possibly the best donuts I have had in my life) & Lunch Out @ Shoreline Brewery
Day 2 Afternoon: Beach
Departure Morning: Beach

Besides food prep and booking the location we really did zero planning for this trip. If we had planned it a little earlier maybe we would have done it before my school program started and maybe we would have ended up in a little nicer of a place to stay but otherwise, it could not have gone better even if we had planned it.

WHAT WE LEARNED ABOUT THE KIDS
The drive there is always easier than the drive back
They almost wake up earlier on vacation than at home
They don’t need time to unwind when we get home like mom and dad
They are surprisingly good and willing to take pics of mom and dad
A movie is just as exciting to them on vacation as at home
Of all the things on the beach the girls loved being buried in the sand the most
They have some sort of 6th sense for when their timed nightlight goes away

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WHAT WE LEARNED ABOUT INDIANA/MICHIGAN CITY
The entire state of Indiana is dry on Sundays
All bars have to have separate dining for families or people under 21
Dennys is never a good idea on the road
No one is really up before 8am


BONUS FEATURE
Right before we left we got to meet the newest member of the Nay clan. James Blake Hatch. He is such a cutie and already so loved.

 

Oh My Little Ellen

Gosh Ellen really turned our whole world when she came. While we had no idea what we were getting into we are so thankful everyday that we ended up making such a wonderful companion to Vivienne and addition to our little Naybie family. Ellen is our naturally, adorably funny girl that is always wearing a facial expression for some reason only known to her … and today she turned 3.

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This is going to be a big year for her. So many changes! Vivi didn’t really have time to think about being an only child, but Ellen has been the baby for a good 3 years (Vivi got 15 months). Ellen will start Pre-K3 and become a big sister all in the same week! Our little thumb sucking, pig tail wearing girl will be a middle child just like that. And I believe besides the one that is going to have to get used to things out of the womb, she will be going through the most change of all of us.

My heart hurts thinking about the times that I know she will feel neglected. And about her cries that I will not hear because there are someone else’s that I have to tend to. But I also know that she will be the best big sister.Everyday we talk about her baby brother and she asks to give him toys and she says how cute he will be.

I love that she wants to be a big sister but every time she says “I’m not a baby anymore” and “I’m a big girl” I realize that these are good things but also that they are so true and that I have blinked and my little Ellen is not so little anymore. I hate saying “please don’t grow up” because even though I love them little, it is so wonderful not having to worry about them on stairs or cutting up their food or lugging them around in a car seat or the million of other back breaking things required for babies.

I know this may read like a rant because I am so thankful that our babies are growing up, becoming more independent and are healthy, I am struggling with the thought of losing these two naybies to this next one. Even with this being my third, the same fears come to mind with my scheduled c-section, breastfeeding, sleep training and the list goes on. While the baby stuff does get easier, with the other two, there are just more things to juggle, more emotions to handle and more expectations to manage including my own.

So happy birthday my little Ellen Olivia. I am going to keep holding you and carrying you these next few months for as long as I can until I can’t in September. I love you.

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Hello Summer … Hitting the Books for Mommy???

Summer is in full swing for use here in Highland. Which means squeezing in as much as we can before our third Naybie makes HIS appearance in September. You’ll probably find us on any given day at the outdoor pool, swim lessons start for us this year, a splash pad anywhere, park or hanging out in the back yard dodging misquotes. We have a few small trips planned to lakes near by with friends, a longer family trip to Lake Michigan in Indiana and then a quick trip out to Colorado just me and Chester to watch some old friends tie the knot. Then its really just a blink away and our baby BOY (still feels so weird to say) will be here.

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Oh and this … Its been almost a year and a half since I quit my marketing work gig to stay at home with the kids full time in Highland. And while it has been trying at times, I have never regretted the move. While I do miss the quietness of the office and chatting with people that don’t call me mommy, I don’t miss the work and have realized that marketing was probably never in my long term career plans. I graduated from Truman with a public communication degree with the thought that I would help spread the message of some wonderful non-profit company, preferably one that helped kids in some way. However, entering the job market right after the recession non-profits were practically frozen and so into the agency world I went and I found a place where I spent 7 years. I don’t really regret those 7 years either. I met some awesome people, worked hard, provided health insurance and a salary to my growing family while Chester was in PA school, started this blog and had two awesome kids!

In the time that I have been “off” the thought of returning to that kind of environment honestly turns my stomach. But the thought of the kids in school full time and me still staying home doesn’t make sense either. What does sound right and what has been in the back of my mind really ever since graduation is teaching. I’m not sure why it took me entering a job market that I wasn’t cut out for to realize that I should have at least spent some extra credits or a minor in education. With both my parents being teachers it would have made a lot of sense then.

After lots of research and a few months (or like 6) of prerequisite classes I am finally ready to begin a masters degree in elementary education this June. I am attending an online accredited, non-profit school called Western Governors University. I will be able to do all my course work from home and go through the licensure process in my state. I’m looking at about 24 months+ of pretty rigorous course work and all the while working to set up student teaching. Oh and did we mention that I’ll be having a baby in my first term in just 3 short months?! I mentioned that already huh? Well I am mostly having to repeat it for my own sake because sometimes I still step back and can’t believe it. I know its my third one but the feeling of amazement, stress and huge responsibility is only greater its seems like each time around.

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At age 30 I didn’t see myself going back to school …. I have probably said that I would never go back. But here we go! If you need me I’ll be here at this small space I have cleared out for myself in our bedroom hopefully not spending too much time on Facebook or Amazon or Target …. yikes!

 

A Little Party for My Naybies

Our world is made up of laughs, cries, songs and silliness from these two little ladies.
Vivienne age 3/4 & Ellen age 2/3.

Today we pulled off maybe the biggest and best party for the girls ever. With the final head count at 38 adults and 21 kiddos we all felt pretty loved and lucky to have such great friends and family show up for the girls birthday party at Silver Lake in Highland. Viv turned 4 in March and Ellen is 3 in June … and this momma just turned 30 a few days ago so plenty of Happy Birthdays went around. And of course we all had to have our own cake!!

The day couldn’t have been any nicer. This weekend followed what seemed like an eternity of cold rain. So sunshine and 70 degree weather had everyone in good spirits, add some cake, 2 pinatas, margaritas, taco bar and being surrounded by little laughs all day I don’t think anyone could have had a bad time.

The girls’ birthday surprise!!
Finding out if they are going to have a little baby brother or baby sister coming in September 2017! 

We are beyond thrilled to make Vivi the leader of our Naybie pack and Ellen a middle child (just like Chester). We realize that this time before baby comes is so very precious, so we hope to make the most of it this summer with our two beautiful girls.

Always and forever, Love the Nays.

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