Week #2 With Naybie #3 | Walton Henry Nay

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Oh baby oh baby. When people ask you if you’re ready for your new born to arrive the real answer is NO. While you can’t wait to see what he will look like and you are so ready to not be pregnant, no one is really ready and up for all that a newborn entails. And it is true that you forget all the work, back breaking pain and amount of time it takes to get this tiny little thing through his daily life. But you smile and say “yes” or “as ready as we’ll ever be” leave and hope for the best.

I will pretense this post that I am writing coming from a third c-section. When I say that I’ve had 3 sections I wish people knew how much I did and do want to push a baby out the natural way, but I did try with baby #1 a little bit with baby #2 and by this time yes we opted for a scheduled c-section. A nurse in the hospital said that her husband was wishing for a c-section because he was so scared of a vaginal birth. There are so many things wrong with that sentence that I can’t even begin to explain. Knowing just that about the husband of hers I can only say that he is a very evil little man.

A wholly able bodied person on their best day would be completely worn down taking care of a newborn. Now take that person, cut her in half, take out an 8 lb turkey from her belly, ask her to breastfeed that turkey round the clock on top of all the other newborn care … and then you wouldn’t be surprised that this person is writing a blog post and three paragraphs in hasn’t even mentioned the name of her new blessed child.

Here are some things that I forgot that I wanted to get down for myself to remember … maybe when a 4th child itch comes rolling around. The lower back pain from the spinal block, the feeling that you are a Westworld host that you can’t shake, the idea of laughing, couching and gaging, the feeling that you will never comfortably lay down or sleep ever again, the tears that come from not being able to pee and poop, the painfulness of a rock hard breast.

BREATH ….
The section above was written in the middle of the night on probably the 2nd or 3rd day home. It was a dark rough time for this momma. Now that we are at the 2 week mark we have had a chance to breath and are lucky that we have had so much help from family and friends. This time around we have needed all the help we can get with not only keeping us fed but keeping a family of F.I.V.E. alive and 2 little girls that need constant reassurance that they are still as important to us as ever.

WALTON HENRY NAY
This name we have had in our head for a while since waiting for the gender on our first (Viv). Originally we were going to use Walton as a middle name but I was really wanting Walton to be a prominent part of our life so a bargain was struck right before our anatomy ultra sound for Vivi and Walton as a first name was born. He is just the sweetest little yellow baby. I didn’t know if he would look like a boy since I was so used to staring into the eyes of little girl babies but he is for sure our little guy and feels different than holding the girls. Maybe the mother-son bond thing has already begun. He is a good sleeper as most newborns should be for the sanity of their parents. And he is a good eater, but we did have to do two blood foot pricks to keep an eye on his bilirubin levels. Happy to report that its one the downward trend and he seems to be looking a bit less yellow everyday. Gosh for sleeping so much and not really knowing what his little personality will be like we sure are falling in love just watching him sleep, kissing his little baby lips, rubbing our cheeks on his soft baby head and taking deep smells in the nape of his wrinkly neck.

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MILK, MILK, MILK
THIS aspect of motherhood is so tiring. While Walton seemed to be a good eater, he was not gaining the weight we wanted at a week out and that combined with the bilirubin levels, we had to supplement with formula already. We have used formula with both the girls and I am completely fine with it but when you’re committed to breast feeding and working around the clock to keep it up, it is a little devastating to have to supplement. We had already been having latch problems which lead to the also upsetting purchase of my first nipple shield. We have only done about 24 hours of formula after nursing, but I had to get into the habit of pumping after each nursing session. And now I am producing a ton of milk and seem to need to nurse or pump every 2 hours on the dot. Or else I’m getting out a hot compress so as not to engorge myself. I could talk about nursing all day long … talking about my milk dud is what this blog was built on but I’ll stop and share a funny fact that only one of my boobs makes about 95% of my supply.

OUR VILLAGE
Being outnumbered by kids, we need all the help we can get. I often reflect and say how lucky we are to have such great family and friends but in times like these where they are actually feeding our family, watching and entertaining the girls when we can’t give them that attention they need and just being there to nod their head when I complain about nursing woes … (which is all the time if you haven’t gotten that yet) is truly the time where I am so happy that we have made these relationships a priority in our lives.

My mom, GMA watched the girls while we were in the hospital and make their time together into a short introduction to preschool since the girls were missing their first week of school in Highland. Knowing that the girls were not just looked after but that they were being enriched and educated is amazing! Also both of Chester’s moms have come up and stayed with us. All you need when your MIL’s stay is baking supplies and the rest just works itself out (that is if you have great ones like I do). Robin and Lori have been so helpful in the kitchen and keeping up with the girls while I have been literally attached to Walton about 80% of the day.

We were so happy to have some company in the hospital. Some parents don’t like to be visited. The hospital can be a venerable time for families. I mean after a c-section you’re most likely wearing mesh underwear and a hospital gown. But it was nice to have a break up in the day for us with some hospital visitors.

After the hospital we came home and the girls started school right away and Chester went right back to work. After I got over the pain hump and was able to lay down flat for a few hours of restful sleep I was in much better spirits. Though the days seem sooooooo long now, double since I live a complete full day at night doing feedings and pumping. I think that we are getting into a good little groove of the girls going to school and soon we’ll be back to the gym a few days a week just to walk and get the girls out of the house on the days they don’t have school. Speaking of school …. I am planning on getting back into things with my MAT program in October though I have no idea when I will have time to sit down for more than a few minutes yet.

Our friends in Highland have really be awesome. I can’t begin to explain how different it is to have some people who are around that we can count on. From taking the girls at literally 5 minutes notice for me to take Walton to a doctor appointment to taking them to the pool when I cannot just to get them out of the house has been amazing. We have had meals brought to us and rides home from school so I don’t have to leave twice in the morning. Seeing these ladies juggle their kids and schedules and meals and also giving us their precious time has made me look more and more at houses to buy in Highland because I don’t want to leave this feeling of community that we have made here.

 

Third Pregnancy | Third Trimester

Well we made it into the final weeks (#35weeks) of what has seemed like the longest and shortest pregnancy of all time. We found out super early with this one around January 6th (thank you Magen & Nick’s wedding for that exact date) so I’ve been pregnant ALLL year. Just when it seemed like it would never become hot enough to go to the pool this summer, it was. And the summer months have flown by. Seeing school supplies and summer clearance items at the store has me realizing that our time as a family of 4 is quickly coming to and end.

In retrospect it has been an easy pregnancy. My other two were also pretty smooth sailing. Besides some hiccups with providers and hospitals it looks like we will be delivering this baby via c-section on September 5, 2017 at Missouri Baptist by the same doctor that delivered Viv and Ellen. No this was no the original plan, but when does that ever happen anyway?

HAS THIS PREGNANCY BEEN DIFFERENT?
I get this question a lot. I think maybe because I am carrying a boy this time around people expect a good answer. The only real differences I can tell is that this baby kicks harder, more and longer than the girls did in utero. Also that I seemed to have ballooned much quicker and feel like I have looked full term all summer. Just in the last week I have been getting the “when are you due” eyes and question because I look and feel uncomfortable. My hair has been pretty full and silky but my skin is struggling this time around.

THE GIRLS EXPECTING
The girls give kisses to my belly all the time. They also use it as a wall to kick off of in the pool. They have met their newest baby cousin, James a few times this month. Which is great practice! Thank you Aunt Jessica! They seemed pretty sweet and careful around their cousin. Ellen lost interest when he did not hold any of the toys that she found for him. Viv would go back and forth but I think their expectations have been slightly lowered. I believe before they were expecting a baby play thing to come out and instantly jump and run and follow them around. The baby will come right when they start school so they will have many a new things to focus their short attentions.

SPRINKLES
I love that baby sprinkles are a thing. While getting some new baby stuff is nice, the best part is connecting with friends in different ways and celebrating this baby. It makes it seem like the very special thing that it is and reminds me that even though it is our third, bringing a life into this world is still just as monumental as the first time around. It also reminds me of what a great support system that we have built with friends and family. In the beginning you can feel so isolated, but really people would love for you to ask them for some help, and this time around I will probably be asking more than before since I won’t have as much help being a stay-at-home person and Chester not getting as much time at home.

Donut Galore Sprinkle | July 30 (#33weeks)
My wonderful ex-co-workers whom have turned into life time friends threw me a surprise little sprinkle when I thought we were just meeting for a swim. Gosh I have been through so much with Magen, Angie and Bonnie since we met in my early twenties. So much changes and happens in that decade that we have witnessed some of life’s greatest moments together. I am so looking forward to celebrating Bonnie’s wedding with her in October, which will probably be this momma’s first night out post this Naybie.

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Highland Punch Sprinkle | Aug 6 (#35weeks)
This party was so special to me because we really haven’t lived in Highland that long of a time … not even 2 years. But it shows what a great community and life that we have made here, after going through the biggest and scariest move to date. These ladies, all of whom are Korte gym members (ha!) are so inspiring to me in different ways. It is amazing to me to see each one of them balance their kids, work and health everyday and do so with smiles. I call this a Highland Punch because I requested a kids free, boozy event so we could sit without running after kids and leaving half of our conversations unfinished. I could actually see Julie’s home at a time not crawling with kids of all sizes … not sure when the last time that has happened in her party house.

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STL Sprinkle | Aug 20 (#37weeks)
And of course our wonderful friends from St. Louis, most of which we owe thanks to Boullie that we have met, threw us a small-big party with a delicious spread and happy memories. While we don’t get to see this bunch as much as we did when we lived in the area we are always so surprised and honored that they keep us as friends, even if it means crossing a river a few times. Our St. Louis family knew us before and after kids and have stuck by us through it all. It has been wonderful watching them through marriages, kids, moves and of course Tower Grove kickball. We are ever so thankful that this bunch has our back.
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Love, The Nays

Beach Vacation Up North

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Our little vacation home on Georgia Ave. Direct access to the beach! We probably had the smallest pad on the street.

While in all responsible forms of thinking it may not have been the best idea to go on a family vacation we decided to use the rational that we won’t remember that we didn’t have the money, didn’t have the vacation days and didn’t have the time. But we do have a 3 and 4 year old for the last summer that it will be just them. Maybe this was our vacation apology to the girls that we are going to give so much attention to this little baby and pretty much ruin Ellen’s life as she knows it.

We love the beach for the girls because with a beach they need very little other entertainment. The 17 hour drive that we made the the Gulf Shores last summer did not sound appealing so we opted for Lake Michigan. We did a circle tour around the lake without kids last summer and kept thinking how much fun they would have at its beaches. So a 4.5 hour drive up to Michigan City, Indiana it was.

As long as it is somewhat warm and not raining its beach weather! While the lake water stays pretty cool it was surprisingly refreshing and bearable even though the outside temps didn’t get above about 87 degrees I’d say. Here is how our itinerary went:

Arrival Afternoon: Beach
Day 1 Morning: Washington Park Zoo
Day 1 Afternoon: Beach
Day 2 Morning: Berry Picking @ Garwood Orchards (and possibly the best donuts I have had in my life) & Lunch Out @ Shoreline Brewery
Day 2 Afternoon: Beach
Departure Morning: Beach

Besides food prep and booking the location we really did zero planning for this trip. If we had planned it a little earlier maybe we would have done it before my school program started and maybe we would have ended up in a little nicer of a place to stay but otherwise, it could not have gone better even if we had planned it.

WHAT WE LEARNED ABOUT THE KIDS
The drive there is always easier than the drive back
They almost wake up earlier on vacation than at home
They don’t need time to unwind when we get home like mom and dad
They are surprisingly good and willing to take pics of mom and dad
A movie is just as exciting to them on vacation as at home
Of all the things on the beach the girls loved being buried in the sand the most
They have some sort of 6th sense for when their timed nightlight goes away

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WHAT WE LEARNED ABOUT INDIANA/MICHIGAN CITY
The entire state of Indiana is dry on Sundays
All bars have to have separate dining for families or people under 21
Dennys is never a good idea on the road
No one is really up before 8am


BONUS FEATURE
Right before we left we got to meet the newest member of the Nay clan. James Blake Hatch. He is such a cutie and already so loved.